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kelly  |  11 November 2008 - 4:20pm

When I was young, many people around me, including my father, referred to African-Americans as "colored." The word was spoken matter-of-factly, not maliciously. But the inherent connotation is one of disrespect, perhaps not actively intended but still vestigial and powerful all the same.

One of my earliest victories as a socially-conscious person was to teach my dad to, at the very least, replace that word with "black," a word preferred by the community it describes. I knew my dad to be a good-hearted man and I understood he was struggling against a lifetime of hearing the other word and accepting the inequality it implied. I was gentle but steadfast in my insistence that words matter.

Once his vocabulary changed, I began chiseling away at the prejudice I saw in both of my parents. Having taught the word, I then instructed on its irrelevance. "Not that it matters" became my mantra every time my parents made a point of someone's race. "Did you know that Susan's daughter's boyfriend is black?" Mom might ask. "Not that it matters," I would reply. Soon they were repeating this phrase themselves, with a glance in my direction, adding it to the end of their questionable comments before I could. I considered this progress, even if the acknowledgment was an afterthought. And gradually, I heard racial comments coming from them less and less.

I share this to illustrate how profound it is even to me, someone whose life never overlapped with the civil rights movement, that this country has just elected a black man. That Barack Obama would be our first African-American president did not appear on the list of reasons I voted for him. He has the potential to be a transformational leader for reasons beyond his race, and I believe his will be an historical presidency for reasons beyond his race. But clearly the fact of his race has enormous impact, and that makes me even more proud of his election. I am amazed at how far we've come, and at how long it has taken us to get here.

We're not there yet. I know that. Here in Redneck Valley, someone sprayed "KKK" on an Obama sign some weeks ago. I have a very real fear of an assassination, an event from which I don't think we could recover. Even avoiding such a horror would not mean we're healed. There will always be bigots, and there is still rampant inequality of opportunity throughout this nation.

But in the week since the election, what I'm finding most remarkable is the perspective of our youngest citizens. This article describes it, and this post is especially resonating with me, particularly this line: "I don't know if he would believe me."

To think that today's children will be incredulous at the story of slavery, are clueless to the connotation behind the word "colored"... it heartens me.

And it gives me hope that to the next generation, not allowing a person to marry whomever he or she wants will sound just as absurd. It gives me hope that we are indeed making progress toward a more perfect union.

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Susie  |  11 November 2008 - 5:44pm

I'm glad you wrote this, and very well. My thoughts and feelings on this subject overwhelm me to the point of being unable to write coherently yet. I've tried. I need to let it all "set a spell."

"Colored" was introduced as the "nice" alternative to "nigger." This was embraced and promoted by the NAACP.

I didn't read your links yet, but I will. My daughter and her friends have no idea of the significance of the race of the President-elect. I just moved "Roots" to the top of our Netflix queue. I told my husband, it's time for our daughter to see it. I had the advantage of having gone through elementary and middle school in a very racially integrated school district. But seeing Roots, as a young teen, shaped my perspective quite a lot.

This is a very big first step for us, on this leg of our national journey. I hope we travel well.

 

Ern  |  12 November 2008 - 11:07am

Amen to that. I've been feeling the same hope, that if equality can come this far in one generation for African-Americans, that our future as a nation with equality for all is bright indeed.

 

nicole  |  12 November 2008 - 10:27pm

Great post, Kelly, very well said. (That Obama sign incident happened to one of my best friend's parents, and her father also received threats at his workplace for displaying it.).

Ok, I say this with great trepidation because I know its un-PC and some may take it the wrong way, but isn't it incorrect of all of us to label Barack Obama as a "black" man and see him within the confines of being "our first black president"? To label him "black" denies at least half of his heritage from him, and I often wonder how he feels about that label. I continuously hear him separate himself from this label, during his speech on race which he gave here in Philadelphia, as he accepted his nomination at the DNC convention, many times on the campaign trail, and even in his first press conference where he referred to himself as a "mutt".

It seems to me we should be fair with how we label his race. Barack Obama is bi-racial, our first bi-racial president, just as much "white" as he is "black", with a few other ethnicities mixed in as well. I feel that I am in some way disrespecting him or his heritage and roots by calling him something other than that.

That being said, Nothing can take away from the power and hope our nation has been given by watching a man of color take office, and I have to admit it's part of the reason I shed my tears as I watched he & his family enter the stage at Grant Park on Nov. 4th. I just wonder why I've heard no one other than the resident-elect himself address this issue.

 

kelly  |  12 November 2008 - 11:47pm

Susie, the semantics alone of something like this fascinate me. When I studied linguistics in college I was really interested in the evolution of words as they are or aren't considered derogatory, and especially the examples of minority groups claiming inflammatory words as their own. Anyway, that's a different discussion. I adore your daughter and her cohorts for their innocence of this issue, and I hope nothing happens to change that. I worry about some horrible event that could become a defining moment in the history of our youngest generation.

Ern, right now it feels like one step forward, two steps back. Connecticut made a big step forward today. We'll get there.

It's a good point, nicole. I've thought the same thing. In Dreams from My Father, Obama describes decades of not feeling like he belonged in white or black communities. And during this election, there were comments that he might be "too black" for white folks but not "black enough" for black folks. So I think people do see that dichotomy. But I also think that in our society, his blackness trumps his whiteness as far as being noteworthy. It reveals something about us for sure. I think the need for labels can be so strong that nuances are lost. Also, he looks black, and I think there might have been a belief that his appearance alone could lose voters who formed an opinion before even hearing his life story.

 

William  |  13 November 2008 - 8:13am

Great post Kelly.

 

RzDrms  |  13 November 2008 - 10:53pm

overall, i truly love where i live (am i wearing blinders?! perhaps. there are fantastic people down here! really.). however, sometimes it sucks major butt. a lot. with the buttage. :(

 
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