floored
kelly | 7 July 2008 - 7:47pm
For the final phase of the kitchen refresh, Rob and I are replacing the floor. And so we are trying to decide on a new floor, which is not going so well. We both suck at making decisions - we overthink every angle until we become so overwhelmed that we give up and do nothing. In fact, Rob's approach to decisions is almost always to delay them. This is based on his belief that if you wait, you may get more information that will help you make a better decision. Which is often true, but just as often it's merely a path to NEVER making a decision. It's the easy way out, though, and so quite often when he suggests we delay I'm like, "Yeah, okay."
But not this time. I am tired of tripping over floor samples. We have been through at least 4 rounds of floor samples ranging from vinyl to hardwood and every conceivable material in between. We have settled on hardwood (and please do not say anything to talk us out of that because we have actually MADE that decision and I'll be damned if we're going to move backward) and now we're considering every possible option in the hardwood realm. We've compared all the samples under every lighting condition at every time of day from every angle. Every angle. "Honey, have you looked at the maple sample when standing on the stool? It looks different from up here!" Of course, that's irrelevant unless we're trying to reach a vase on the top shelf or kill a spider on the ceiling, but still - WE HAVE CONSIDERED IT.
We have now narrowed the choices down to 2(ish), and we've spent the last week tossing pros and cons of each back and forth, the same list over and over again as if perhaps repeating it one more time will make the decision suddenly clear. Yesterday Rob suggested we write the pros & cons down on paper. Considering we both have this list memorized, as evidenced by our daily mantra-like recitation of it, I can only assume he thought that by putting the list into writing we might discover The Answer hidden in the scrawlings somewhere, a secret message only viewable under a black light, perhaps.
Not that I have a better idea. My latest tactic has been to employ the cats in the decision-making, taking it as a "sign" when one of them chooses a particular sample to sit on. Bridget clearly prefers the hickory, but Maylee likes to plop down on the maple, and suddenly I find myself sincerely attempting to determine which of my cats has a better flair for interior design.
You are probably thinking that at this point we should just use The Eeny Meeny Miny Moe Method, but you forget that I am a control freak. I must decide something. Even if that decision is just to, um, delay the decision. Which we're totally not going to do. Unless we are. We haven't decided yet.


Please, NEVER build a house. I'm just sayin'.
Maybe you should put up a photo of each and do an internet poll. I'm not saying that we should make the decision for you, but maybe all of our opinions would help you along?
Yeah, so you're not the ONLY ones not good at decision making. When we want to go out to dinner, we debate and discuss until we are STARVING and cannot think straight let alone come to consensus. Now we have to try to pick the house we will live in for many years from among 20 AWESOME houses...in one day. Maybe two days. I have made spreadsheets and studied and studied online but the reality is we have to tour 20 houses in a day and may very well end up going "Eenie Meenie Miny Moe." This stresses me out.
I've learned two things while decorating our house:
1) Half the time, if the samples weren't side by side, you wouldn't be able to tell the difference between them. So in the end it doesn't really matter which one you choose.
2) I don't have to LOVE every single item I choose. If I like it and it goes well with everything else, then it's good enough.
But I'm with Bente--I wanna see the samples!
Seriously, Ern, you are so right.
I thought of that, Bente, but without a doubt there wouldn't be a consensus. We did ask a couple family members for input, and the conflicting opinions confused us more than ever.
MM, I've been reading about your house-hunting situation and I'm totally stresed out by it. Gah! It's great to have so many choices, and yet...
Sharkey, I feel so much better! No really, I do. Especially your second point. Throughout this process we've said that we like the samples but we aren't utterly compelled by them. But if adoring one isn't a requirement, that eases the pressure a bit. Come to think of it, we felt the same way about this house and now we love it here.
It goes like this...Rob does not want to make a decision because then if for some reason something goes wrong or you don't like the way it looks in the crescent moon light at 3:46am exactly, he cannot be blamed for making a bad decision.
We're trying to pick hardwoods here, too. Is Brazilian Tigerwood one of your choices? I think I'd vote for that, if you polled us. :)
We are currently going through the same painful decision process trying to pick a color for the walls in the great room. I have been debating our color choices for, oh, approximately 3 months now, and I'm still no closer to making a decision. I usually employ Rob's decision making technique, and Mr. Geeky prefers the "whatever you say, dear" approach when it comes to this stuff, so you can see why we're getting nowhere fast.
Thank goodness we don't have to do floors any time soon! Good luck with that :)
And now you know why I've been absent lately. The decisions, they are endless. Of course, when our brick started going up, I told SpyDad, "I'm just so happy that the brick is going up that it could be pink and I seriously wouldn't fucking care." He agreed.
Ha! So true, William. And I'll admit that part of why I don't want to make the decision is that I don't want to hate myself if I don't like the floor - much better to blame Rob.
Ooh, Susie, Brazilian Tigerwood is quite lovely. We are looking for a very light hue, though, so I don't think it works in our context. But you should totally get it!
geeky, before we painted the kitchen, we taped, like, 21 paint swatches on our kitchen wall. And looked at them in every light. From every angle. And asked the opinion of everyone who stopped by. Choosing paint SUCKS. But at least you know that if you really hate it, you can paint over it without too much trouble.
I cannot imagine, UCM. People say that building a house can ruin a marriage, and while I feel confident my marriage could withstand it, I'm not sure my sanity could.
I feel for you guys! It's hard to pick stuff out. You'll figure it out when you're ready. Don't think about it for a while and you'll figure it out. :) Let us know what you settle on!
I'm surprised that William didn't make a joke about hardwood... considering his recent experience with hard salami. Plus all of the talk about polls and polling that's going on around here. Guess I have to be the 13 year old boy this time....
Thanks, Jen! I'll post pictures when we're done...you know, months from now.
Charlotte, I'm surprised no one made a hardwood joke. What is wrong with these people?!