life on the farm
kelly | 19 July 2005 - 11:54am
This sign is my WTF? Tuesday submission for this week. It isn't a WTF? for me because I see them all the time. But I thought some of you might enjoy this little snippet of Redneck Valley culture. Tractor crossing signs are not uncommon here. We've also got horse and buggy crossing signs - I'll try to get a shot of one of those. Even more common than seeing the signs, though, is seeing actual tractors and horse and buggies on the road. They go really slooow and are a bit of a hazard, but I have to admit I enjoy seeing them around. They give this place character. And to me, a tractor is a reminder of a place where priorities don't get jumbled and life looms large.

(Don't ask me why the farmer's hat looks like a firefighter helmet.)
My mom grew up on a farm that my great-grandfather bought and has since been passed down generation to generation. My grandfather grew up on that farm, married my grandmother, and she moved into the house with his family and they all lived there and worked on the farm. When my great-grandfather passed away, my grandparents built a new farmhouse on the same farm. My mom was born and raised in this house, as was her brother who grew up, married my aunt, and now lives in that house and runs the farm. My grandfather still lives there and insists on puttering around on the tractor, but he isn't much help anymore. My uncle shares the farm responsibilities and profits with his son who is my age and who was also raised in that house and will inherit the farm when my uncle dies. I've always felt it a bit unfair, to be honest, because it is understood that the son of the family will inherit the farm, and so the girls are free to leave, go to college, and make a new life for themselves. The son of the family is never really given that choice. For the only son to abandon the farm would create a huge burden for the family, and family comes first on the farm.
As a kid, I visited the farm often, and those are some of my favorite childhood memories. I helped herd cattle, pick beans, gather eggs, and bale hay. I've milked cows and watched my uncle shear sheep. I've ridden over every inch of those hills and hollows on a four-wheeler. It may all sound a bit redneck, but I have way too much respect for farmers to consider them hillbillies. They are smart people with a wide range of skills. They are veterinarians to their animals, mechanics to their machinery, harvesters of their land. They are problem-solvers and do-it-yourselfers. They are self-sustaining. And the farmers I've met have an understanding of their land and animals that is like a sixth sense, a sensitivity to the rhythms of nature that most of us never even notice. Their appreciation and respect for "the land" is what I respect about them most of all.
I still visit the farm several times a year, and God seems most real to me when I'm there, when we pray for rain at the supper table (dinner is lunch - the evening meal is supper), when we sit on the porch swing and watch the sun sink below the mountain tops, when the fields are dotted white with lambs in the spring, when the tomato plants in the garden start to bend, heavy with ripe tomatoes. On the farm, God still seems to be present everywhere.
My mom says the farm is a great place to visit but not a great place to live. She says we get to experience the novelty of it all without being tied to it, without waking up at 4am to milk the cows, without having an income that is in so many ways dependent on the weather, without working our fingers to the bone just to get by. And she's right - I wouldn't trade my life for theirs. But the farm provides a much-needed balance to the rest of my life. I always leave the place with a clearer perspective of my place in this world, a greater appreciation for the simple things, and a better understanding of what matters most in this life.
And so every time I find myself driving behind a tractor, I don't mind that it slows me down for just a moment. Sometimes I need to be pulled away from my hustle-bustle life and reminded of the lessons I've learned on the farm.
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I have an friend who is a farmer in MA. I always aske him about his work and he has said "You have to work it to understand it." The third paragraph explains it pretty well.
no wtf? here...i totally understand what you're saying. thanks for sharing a great story.
You convey this so eloquently. Williams friend is right, you do have to work it to understand it. There is something so utterly gratifying about farming and knowing that you made this happen. There is also something so totally debillitating about the fact that all that depends on you.
You are fortunate to have that balance in your life.
I can't get the image of your big smile under a JD hat now. You and Kristine.
I loved this post. Beautiful descriptions of farm life. Makes me wistful for it, though I have never experienced it first hand.
And I THOUGHT you looked like Rebecca of Sunnybrook Farm with those braids in the picture with your brother!
I hate to say this, but we could REALLY use thouse around here. I don't know how many times someone I'm riding with has almost rearended a tractor, doing oh..about 10mph down the road.
What your friend said will stick with me, william, because it's so true.
I think we think about things in similar ways, Raz, so I'm not surprised to hear that you understand what I'm saying. I'm glad, though - it's nice to be understood.
Thank you, greenie. And what you say about farming (or growing things in general, right?) being both gratifying and debilitating is quite eloquent as well.
Stay tuned, mrtl. I just had a photo shoot in your honor.
Thanks, Amy. And now I'm wistful for a Shirley Temple...the drink. :)
I know someone who ran into the back of a horse and buggy, Amanda. YIKES.
What a lovely post, filled with warm, real images. Just ... such a big virtual hug to sit and read it.
My great grandfather, who had a farm in Saskatchewan, always said "Anyone smart enough to be a farmer is too damn smart to be a farmer."
What a great post. I love your description of life on the farm. (Or life visiting the farm!) The way you describe slowing down and reconnecting with the rhythms of the natural world is exactly what I get from being out in the mountains. Or on a wild shore. We get so cemented and bricked and asphalted and airconditioned into our city (or suburb) way of life that we forget about the gentle pace of nature, the rhythm of days and seasons and migrations. I miss that even though I have never really had it. In fact, if I could go back in time to any historical period, I would want to be a hunter-gatherer. It seems so simple and profound, working hard WITH nature to sustain an existence.
PS--I think the tractor rider is a woman wearing a John Deere baseball hat with a ponytail.
WARNING: Driving tractors in yellow fields results in poor posture.
As the granddaughter and great-granddaughter of farmers, I salute you. I remember going back to the farm and cutting rhubarb stalks down and eavesdropping on the chicken, er, slaughter. My mom said I would pick up the chicken heads and cradle them, saying, "It's okay, you'll be okay." It's no wonder why I turned out this way. Sorry to all the vegans out there reading this. Hey, I wasn't doing the chopping!
I raised sheep in middle school and high school. So yes, I have shorn sheep. I remember it was so theraputic, the hum of the clippers and the straight lines of reverse mohawks I made in the wool. Sweet.
I was born in the wrong century. I would trade that life for my own. I wish things were simple again. I just don't know how I'm supposed to tell my daughter about the world and why it is the way it is.
Sounds like a hard life but a good and honest one. I can see the appeal.
Thank you, Nilbo.
What a beautiful comment, Ern. And re: the tractor rider being a woman - I like how you think. :)
See, idrivetractorz, we are long-lost sisters! Only you're way cooler than me because you actually got to shear sheep. That chicken story about broke my heart, though. I was fairly sheltered from the harsh realities of farming, although I will never forget the day I watched my uncle c*strate pigs. (For some reason, I draw the line at being associated with c*strate by Google. Dunno why....) I'll spare everyone the details, except to say that the squealing was a sound I will never forget. ::shudder::
That's it exactly, Von Krank. Hard but honest.
What a beautiful post Kelly. I really enjoyed reading that, thanks.
K SisSta,
Loving the idrivetractorz. Gotcha on the Google pig procedure. Us girls gotta have standards. So sorry to hear about the bad piglet memory. Eech. I think it's a little more humane now, done with banding (rubberbands over a couple of weeks). Okay, so that really doesn't sound all that humane now that I think about it...
Sheesh.
O M G! We could so be long lost cousins! My mom grew up on a ranch that has been in her family for 100+ years. Almost every summer of my life we would go and spend a few weeks there. Every now and then my mom and all us kids and our families go to my uncle's ranch and have a family reunion. I wish so badly that my kids could have the same short but sweet experiences I had there as a kid, but I don't know what will happen as the land is passed down on that side of the family and our genetic link gets smaller and smaller. It makes me sad to think some day soon when my cousin takes over and my mom is no longer around we probably won't be that welcomed there.
I'm kind weirded out that I found this just now.
Let's face it, cray, c*strating by definition isn't humane. Poor piggies...
Hi Di! And I know exactly what you mean. My cousin who will inherit the farm isn't sure he wants that life forever (and while I would hate to lose the family farming "legacy," I can't say I blame him). There's been hushed talk of someday selling the farm, and Rob and I actually talked at one point about buying part of it if that were to happen. Not to farm, just to have. That place is a part of my family and a part of my soul.
Ro, WHOA. I came across that same thing yesterday! I swear to google I did. It was right before I posted this, actually, and I thought the timing was so bizarre. I was going to reference it in the post but decided it set the wrong tone.
Loved your story! It brought back sooooo many memories. My uncle had a small farm and we used to visit when I was a kid... those were the days.
Thanks!!
Those were the days, Momo. Glad I could take you back there for a few moments.
That was just very sweet and tender and beautiful, Kelly. It made me all teary and wistful.
Oh, and where I come from, there's a big difference between a hillbilly and a redneck. (i.e. Most men 'round here are proud to be rednecks, but might knock your teeth out if you call them a hillbilly.)
That's interesting, LB. I wouldn't say there's much distinction here between redneck, hillbilly, or hick, but maybe I'm just not up and up on the Redneck Valley lingo.